I feel like I have some ‘splaining to do.
In my last post, I wrote about dating and discerning, and I really glorified dating. Don’t get me wrong, I think dating is incredibly valuable and an important part of discernment.
But for me, right now, it is NOT what I need to be doing.
I am not in a place where there would be a single shred of prudence in dating. I am not ready, I am not in the right frame of mind or of heart, and any attempt I would make at a functioning relationship would fail like my last one did, only worse, because I haven’t recovered even a teensy bit from that. (Okay, maybe a teensy bit, but certainly not enough to be pursuing anything/one else.)
I lumped myself into the collective “we” because I still fit in the category. I am a single young Catholic, surrounded by other single people, who are not dating. I want to see active discernment… But my active discernment needs to be centered in prayer and prayer alone. My actions should be related to my own life, not the life of another. There will be times when I include myself in the collective “we” when I talk about dating, it will happen again. But I need a good long while before I attempt to immerse myself in the collective “we” instead of being on the outskirts.
Whomever I am called to marry, is in the same place. We will find each other, when the time is right.
Right now is not the time.